Magic for Meeting a New Love (or New Friends)

Madame Pamita’s Handy Guide to Attracting New Love (or New Friends)

When you are ready to invite in a new love or new friends*, it is so very helpful to do magical work and there are many, many things that you can do:

  • Light a True Love, Soul Mate or Magnetic Attraction Candle.

  • Wear Look Me Over, Bewitching, Queen Elizabeth (for women) or John the Conqueror (for men) oil on a daily basis.

  • Carry a mojo bag for love.

  • Burn a New Love or Magnetic Attraction Incense Spell.

  • Do a New Romance Spell.

  • Speak positive affirmations for new love.

  • Do a Lodestone spell for love.

Where to Meet New Lovers (or New Friends)

While all this rootwork and spellwork is quite powerful, if you don’t follow it up with putting yourself out into the flow of life for your perfect person to meet you, you are hiding your light under a bushel basket. Together the spellwork and the action will open up multiple opportunities for you and your true love to cross paths. Remember that when you are both intentional and out in the world to receive those intentions, you give the Universe more opportunities to bring you amazing synchronicities.

The following list below is a great resource for you to brainstorm activities that sound appealing to you but also open up opportunities to meet new people. Look through this list and see which things sound interesting to you, Google them and then follow up by checking them out by yourself or with a friend. Try several, make an effort to meet the people who organize the groups or events and then stick with the ones that really make you happy. They will put you in the flow of life, allow you to meet new people and create the space for your perfect love to come to you.

Online Dating - The default because it’s the easiest way to meet many potential partners

Meetups - Go to to find gatherings of like-minded folks - there are many choices

Evening Classes - You will have interests in common and you can always talk about the class

Conventions - If you have a special interest, there is probably a convention to go along with it

Traditional Trade school - It’s a great place to learn new skills and meet like-minded people

Trade School - Check out for unusual classes that you pay for via barter

Volunteering - This is a great way to meet people and do something good at the same time

Voluntourism - Tourism + Volunteering = Voluntourism - doing good plus travel adventures

Improv Classes - You will be interacting with people and that makes it easy to talk

Teach a Class - If you have expertise in a skill, teach a class and you’ll meet tons of people

Church/Temple/Mosque/Etc. - Religious gatherings are welcoming and a great place to meet

Language School - Learn a new language online or in-person - talking to new people is encouraged, a definite +

Walking/Hiking Groups - The Sierra Club and more - get fit, see nature, meet new people

Travel - Staying in hostels opens up community; Travel groups for singles or travel alone.

Run Clubs - Running/biking/swimming/triathlon/etc. clubs or the Hash House Harriers

Whiskey/Wine/Beer Tasting Events - Meet like-minded enthusiasts of your fave libation

Adult Sports Leagues - Roller derby, softball, kickball, volleyball, frisbee golf, you name it

Yacht Clubs/Country Clubs - Not all are expensive and the can have extra social activities 

Community Choir - Join a church or community choir to get in tune with some others.

Dancing - A wide variety of dance styles - each with its own social scene and age group

Gaming Stores - If you are interested in board games, card games, D&D or other RPG games

Bookstores - There are readings, writers groups and other events for those who love to read

Comic Stores - Lots of gatherings for those who love comics, manga and graphic novels

Community Garden - Get your own plot or volunteer to help someone else with theirs

Toastmasters - Improve your public speaking in an environment that is friendly and supportive

Makerspaces - People get together to share tools, a workspace, and ideas - informal learning

Libraries - They often have free classes, book clubs, readings, lectures, concerts and more

Politics - Get involved with a candidate/cause that you believe in and meet others who do too

Community Service Club - Lions, Rotary, Kiwanis, etc. have social activities and do good

Fraternal Organizations - Check out lodges like Eagles, Moose, Masons, Elks etc. 

Groupon, LivingSocial, Travelzoo, Goldstar - all have events and activities at a discount

Art Museums/Galleries - Classes, social groups, volunteer/docent programs and openings

Shared Living/Roommates - Open your home to new people and make new friends

Co-op Grocery Stores - volunteer to work at a co-op grocery store to meet new neighbors

Yoga - A class/sport/spiritual path all in one - especially good for men looking for women

Martial Arts Classes - Another kind of class where you will interact and bond with students

Dog Parks - Take your dog and meet other dog lovers - Go at different times of the day

Likemind - A non-dating service that lets you meet others who have similar interests

Alumni Associations - You can meet people from your college in whatever city you live

Theater Groups - Perfect for singers, actors or artsy-crafty backstage people

Neighborhood Social Networks - Groups oriented toward your neighborhood or community

Hyper-Local Events - Find coffee houses, restaurants, stores in your area - become a regular

Get to Know Your Neighbors - Meet the old-fashioned way and then interact online

12-Step Meetings - Problem with drugs/alcohol? Meet people who are working on themselves

Blind Dates - Ask people who know you and your likes/dislikes to set you up on a blind date

Sporting Events - Football, baseball, tennis, golf, hockey - smaller events are more intimate

Retreats - Find others who are into meditation, yoga, spirituality, writing or self-exploration

Car Clubs/Shows/Races - If you are curious or a motor enthusiast, you can meet others too

Cultural Groups - Say it proud! Support and enjoy your culture and meet others who do too

Private Social Group/Club - Some are expensive but can be cheaper than a matchmaker

Board of a Charity - Give back to the community - meet generous, socially conscious people

Be a Host - invite friends to dinner - ask them to bring other friends you don’t know with them

Class Reunions - reconnect with old friends and meet some you may not have met at school

Obedience Class - Get a better-behaved puppy and meet other dog lovers at the same time  

Dog Show/Cat Show - Meet other cat or dog enthusiasts or get involved and compete

Work Happy Hour - Bond with coworkers and they may introduce you to their friends

Facebook - Check out what events your friends on Facebook are attending and go

Birthday/Holiday Parties - Go to friends’ parties to meet new people - widen your social circle

Public Transportation - Take public transportation to work or events to meet new people

Free Events - Google "Free Things to Do in (your town)" and see what comes up

Verlocal - has a wide array of fun classes in larger cities

Philanthropy - Get involved in raising money for causes you believe in

Board of Directors - Get on the Board of Directors for a company or organization you like

Architectural tours - All big cities have tours showing off their gems. Google “Free Walking Tours” or look for more professional tours - here are some in LA: Esotouric, The L.A. Conservancy, Red Line Tours, Pasadena Heritage

Do you have a favorite place to meet people that isn’t mentioned in this list? Add it to the comments below!


* For attracting new friends, the process you do is the same, except for replacing intentions of passion and romance with intentions of sweet friendship. You can even use some of the same products: 

  • Light a Magnetic Attraction Candle.
  • Wear Look Me Over oil on a daily basis.
  • Carry a custom mojo bag for friendship.
  • Burn a Magnetic Attraction Incense Spell.
  • Speak positive affirmations for new friends.